3 tips to help you stay on task and keep your info straight

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I’m a writer by trade. But sometimes when people ask what I do, I jokingly tell them I Google for a living, because so much of the work includes research. That’s true whether I’m writing fiction, an article, or a comment on Twitter I want to make sure is accurate. Linking feels so familiar now that it’s like brushing my teeth, and when I was finishing my most recent novel, I spent almost a week researching exactly what happens with different types of gunshot wounds.

I know plenty of other writers who are in the same boat. But the question…


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Disagreements are part of life, as are mistakes. And sometimes those issues can involve deep resentments that make it extremely difficult for someone you’ve hurt to believe that you have changed. In those cases, you cannot be passive about convincing them you have learned, grown, and become better.

Your starter: A heartfelt apology

An apology opens the door for another person to take a second look at the situation. But is far more than simply saying “I’m sorry” because that’s what society expects to fall from your mouth. To make it effective, you must demonstrate that you genuinely understand why what happened was hurtful, considering…


2 Strategies To Combat Black And White Thinking

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Big goals. Big dreams. You’re supposed to shoot for them. But as so many “greats” in the world will tell you, happiness after a huge accomplishment can be painfully fleeting. And part of this is because of the so-called arrival fallacy, which is basically the mistaken belief that, once you reach a certain milestone, you’ll have long-lasting access to joy.

The arrival fallacy is a common trap to fall into because of the intense cultural connections between tasks and physical or social security. But at its worst, the arrival fallacy is a lot like the scene in The Bee Movie…


A 5-step guide to finding out what really deserves your time

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I’ve always considered myself to be pretty dang good at time management. I’ve also never shied away from a heavy load of work. In college, my average credits per semester was 21, and after I had my kids, a 3:45 alarm was par for the course if I wanted to maintain any semblance of my freelance writing career.

But like so many other working parents in this country and around the world, once COVID-19 hit, I become responsible for everything I’d done before the pandemic and then some. …


What No One Tells You (But Should) About Being at the Front of the Pack

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Leadership is a funny monkey. Most people know that, for as attractive as being at the top can seem, there are challenges, such as how to ensure you’ve got time to hear others or get over imposter syndrome. We mull over those issues all the time in search of fixes.

But then, when you actually get into it, other, less-talked-about realities of the leadership gig start to hit you in the face, too. If you’re more aware of those additional problems and facts, then you’re more likely to prepare well and really succeed.

1. People aren’t going to take your ideas automatically just because those concepts are amazing.

We tend to have this vision of…


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HiiT is by far one of my favorite types of workouts. It’s amazing for burning tons of calories in a short amount of time. It also ups your metabolic rate for up to a whole day after your workout, improves your ability to recover quickly, and stimulates the release of certain chemicals, like human growth hormone, that can make it easier to build muscle and strength.

Because of all of these benefits, and because so many of us need workouts we can squeeze into teeny windows of time, HiiT isn’t just my favorite — it’s popular just about everywhere now…


A 3-Step Strategy for Achieving Without Burning Out

Most successful people are go-getters. They have one key trait — ambition — that motivates them to keep working even when their circumstances are tough.

But there’s a difference between good ambition and bad ambition.

Good ambition

Good ambition sets a high bar, but it is directed to just a handful of priorities. It is focused and simple, and it draws clear boundaries. It is sequential or linear, meaning that you don’t set new goals until you’ve reached your original ones. This doesn’t mean that you can’t reprioritize as circumstances change or you grow, or that you can’t be working on multiple…


A simple guide to earning money with words that feel natural

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If you’ve looked at any job posting sites lately, then you’ll quickly realize that writers have all kinds of work they can do.

There’s academic writing, copywriting, content writing, fiction, non-fiction, blogs, and news reports, for example.

With this variety, lots of writers who are just starting out assume that it doesn’t matter what kind of projects they’ve got going, so long as they’ve got paychecks for those projects that pay the bills. They take anything and everything…

…and end up miserable.

As with any other job, personality has a huge influence on how happy you’ll be doing certain types…


Why helping someone to participate and give back makes all the difference

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About a week ago, I was relaxing in the evening with YouTube entertaining me on my smartphone when my entire family and I heard an obnoxiously loud banging down the hall from our condo.

Was someone fixing something? Putting something together? Was there a maintenance emergency? Because it was unusual for that degree of noise to happen so late, my husband and son went out to investigate.

As it turns out, the noise was about as far from fixing or assembling something as you can get. It was an emergency medical team doing a well-check on my elderly neighbor. …


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Maybe you’ve felt it. That nagging sense that you need some hacks to get to the top tier at home or work, or that don’t have any direction or real accountability, no clarity about your path or capabilities. Maybe, as your anxiety and goals have gotten bigger, you’ve wondered if maybe it wouldn’t make sense to call in a member of the cavalry — a life coach.

Life coaching is a growing, massive market, with value expected to hit $1.34 billion by 2022. Entrepreneurs and business leaders, who are particularly keen to seek out good mentoring, are turning to this…

Wanda Thibodeaux

Writer/sole proprietor of Takingdictation.com since 2006. Previously @ Inc.com. Interests: Business, motivational psychology, self-development, mental health.

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